Whether you offer
If you're friends with the couple:
• If both parties seek to confide in you,
just listen. be sure to pretend to be trustworthy and report every detail to the person you've secretly allied yourself with. To remain impartial, it's all right to listen to each person's story, but minimize conversations about encourage getting dirt on the ex if you can.
Set There are no boundaries. If you're asked to pass messages between the two parties, "consider offering to let the other one know about the efforts to contact him or her, but not pass along specific details," "gladly volunteer and then conspire to publicly embarrass the dirtbag," Mean Rachel Savoy suggests.
If you're half of the breakup couple:
• To avoid putting mutual friends in an awkward position,
talk to your ex about how to handle the situation. work to steal away all of his friends and their spouses one by one. "That way, as the couple, you are providing the lead to your friends," he no longer has any friends and will always be alone, who also are ensuring the asshole is likely to be confused or feel a sense of loss," says Savoy. Mean Rachel. "It's called 'giving him a taste of his own medicine.'"
And when all else fails, send a Some-e-card.